Coeur de Pirate vient de faire son coming out. Dans un texte paru sur Noisey, Béatrice Martin raconte comment elle est tombée en amour avec une femme à l’âge de 6 ou 7 ans.
Elle a nié ces émotions pendant plusieurs années. Elle croyait qu’avoir un enfant et avoir un mode de vie hétérosexuel allait faire passer ces sentiments, mais le tout est juste devenu plus fort.
Pour ceux qui se demandent, voici ce que le terme “queer” veut dire sur Wikipédia :
- Gay, lesbienne, transsexuel, allosexuel, altersexuel, pansexuel,
- Relatif à l’ensemble de la communauté LGBT (hétérosexuels, gays, bisexuels, transsexuels et plus).
Elle n’est pas hétérosexuelle. Du moins pas à 100%.
Voici le texte complet de Coeur de Pirate en anglais. Cool d’avoir une autre modèle du genre au Québec.
Coeur de Pirate Coming out Queer
In response to the news, social media became full of hashtags like #gaysbreaktheinternet and #queersbreaktheinternet to publicly come out in support of. I thought it was wonderful: why hide who you are? In a world where, in certain countries, being gay is still punishable by death, it’s important to take a stand. The internet is a beautiful place sometimes. That’s when I started feeling like a hypocrite. The whole situation made me wonder if I was considering myself honest. I had been going through many changes as well. As a public figure, I’ve always wondered what my position should be about my private life: what should I say or not say? Sure, it’s my “private” life, I can say whatever I want, but truthfully there is some good in being honest. This is not just for me but for the people that consider me someone who is cool and awesome. At least, I try to be.
My first romantic thoughts were about a girl I knew. I didn’t quite understand it at the time because I was 6 or 7 years old, but I remember the girl’s parents calling my parents to tell them that I was going overboard with the phone calls and the attention. I liked her, I really liked her. I was always reading a lot of manga at that age, specifically Sailor Moon, where lesbian love was celebrated in a subtle way. Additionally, some of the Sailor Scouts dressed up in men’s clothes, and it was awesome. It was enlightening. Sometimes you didn’t know if someone was a girl or a boy. It was beyond what most seven-year-olds were thinking about. That being said, as I grew up and saw how people interacted, it became clear to me that it was considered weird to like someone from the same sex. One of my first crushes was a girl and the second she heard about it, she started ignoring me. For anyone, that’s traumatizing. I resented the fact that liking someone of the same sex was not widely accepted. I settled for a heterosexual lifestyle because I was scared of rejection. After years of being awkward both in bed and in relationships, I settled down, buried all of my feelings deep inside, had a kid, and thought things were going to be alright.
I was completely wrong. Whatever I had repressed all those years came rushing back the second after I gave birth. I started disassociating. Whenever I had any form of contact with anyone, I would feel used and helpless. So I tried to detach myself from whatever was going on, physically and mentally. As someone that was realizing all of this later in life, I felt like a complete fraud. It is clear that with the Orlando attack homophobia is still very much present and a concern. Even with the internet, the open debates on horrible bills like North Carolina’s HB2that are being passed in this day and age it is still fact that loving the person that you want to love comes with a price.
That is why I’m coming out as queer today; because I can no longer be scared of what people might think about me. I can’t be scared that someone will stop listening to my music, or that parents might not want their kids listening to me because of the fact that I want to love whoever I want to love. I’m coming out for my daughter who needs to learn that love knows no race, religion, gender or orientation. Even though the family that she knew in the very beginning won’t be the same, she deserves all of the love that she needs or wants. I’m coming out for the victims that lost their lives because they wanted to celebrate who they truly were.
It isn’t easy for me to write any of this, but I know that some good can come out of it. I’m sure that if you’re not in a big city, and that you feel scared to come to terms with who you really are, what happened in Orlando can scare you to become the person you were meant to be. This is my message to you, as someone that was terrified as well, that I found solace in my difference.
Coeur de Pirate est maman d’une petite fille de 3 ans. Aux dernières nouvelles elle était aussi fiancée avec le tatoueur Alex Peyrat, mais elle ne porte pas souvent sa bague sur ses dernières photos Instagram. (Mise à jour : Elle est maintenant officiellement séparée de son chum.)
On comprend aussi mieux pourquoi c’était si important d’avoir cette invitée transgenre lors de son concert sur les plaines d’Abraham au FEQ 2016.